Instructions:
Point Sheet for a Teenager

Files:

Download blank template – Worksheet 8.3c – Teenager Point Sheet Template

Download instructions to print – Instructions for Teenager Point Sheets

Instructions:

The Teen Point Sheet should be considered a “draft,” acknowledging that the teenage experience includes redefining personal power as the teen moves toward adulthood. Review the sample point sheet as it is written and allow your teen to give input regarding items that can be included and should be excluded in the final point sheet.

The goal of the Teen Point Sheet is three-fold:

1. To identify desired behavioral goals.
2. To create an opportunity for dialogue between the teen and the supervising adult.
3. To identify mutually agreed upon goals.

When designing your Teen Point Sheet:

1. Ask your teen to identify additional/replacement goals as you explain that you must both agree on the goals in order for them to be on the point sheet.
2. Explain to your teen that the items on the point sheet are a starting point for items on which to focus and all items on the final point sheet will be linked to rewards.
3. Invite your teen to revise the point sheet with you so that both of you agree on its content. If he requests a copy to think about, that is acceptable.
4. Define the “rewards” that will come from each item completed satisfactorily on the point sheet (i.e. money for each item completed OR a reward that has value to your teen and is acceptable to you).
5. Be sure to focus on rewards that are desired by the teen since these rewards will serve as motivation for participation and cooperation.
6. Remember that “baby steps” is better than no steps at all. If the point sheet only contains a few items in the beginning then start there and work on adding items together that are agreeable to both of you.
7. Point sheets can be completed on as many days of the week as the teen chooses and preferably turned in at the end of the day. Do not constantly ask the teen if he has completed a point sheet. However, you may gently inquire from time to time.
8. The teen is to be paid based on the rewards agreed upon by both of you. For example, rewards could include accessibility to the family car for a designated amount of time based on how many items he completed on the point sheet. Alternatively, the point sheet rewards may go towards helping him pay for his cell phone bill or any type of subscription or recurring bill.

Example Point Sheet: